FliegendeWolf 0 #101 July 25, 2002 QuoteI for one have been up and down for the last thirty years of marriage, but I'll stay in it because the downs make the ups so much better. Ah yes, the joys of makeup sex! A One that Isn't Cold is Scarcely a One at All Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fasterfaller 0 #102 July 25, 2002 I'm not saying that a relationship with a woman that skydives would solve all the relationship problems that exist . I just would not want a relationship with someone that does not . I am not trying to dictate how anyone should live their life . I am just stating what works for me . I have had more than one relationship where skydiving was a huge issue , four to be exact . The four relationships that I mentioned all were for more than a year and they all came down to the skydiving problem in the end . At least I only was engaged one time and got out of the others before it went that far . Call me selfish or stubborn but I am not willing to change this part of my life in the least bit . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shark 0 #103 July 25, 2002 On a more positive note, I should mention that there are a lot of skydiving couples and families at the 2 SoCal DZs. (Sorry, I haven't spent much time in "LoCal" (SD) to know it very well.) And yes, I have also witnessed married couples break up and decide who will be at the dz on any particular weekend. I have also seen skydivers go beyond dating and tying the knot. (no, not a finger trap. wait, that's another thread.) And as far as families go, I did the SSL with a father and daughter. It was pretty cool. Her first in her 65 jumps. Gretchen was our team-mom. Her and Harold have "adopted" me keeping the Shark off the streets at night. Then there's Derek (2000 jumps) and his wife Jana (several tandems). Both their kids have done tandems and one will be starting AFF soon. So I dunno. Maybe our community does reflect the general population... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkyDekker 1,465 #104 July 25, 2002 QuoteOn the other hand, a lot of skydivers DEMAND that their 'other' accept the sport, instead of asking them to understand it. Skydivers also tend to be very passionate about their sport, and tend to make the 'other' feel less important, and worse, LESS LOVED than the sport. skymut, I think you hit the nail right on its head. I think that most of us enjoy feeling loved and hence when we feel that our life partners love something else more than they love you, that hurts. I think that if you would ask my fiancee what she dislikes most about skydiving, her response would be alone those lines. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #105 July 25, 2002 QuoteShe said it was her way or the highway Heheheheee...Oh look...this seems to be my on ramp. C'YA..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiver51 0 #106 July 26, 2002 In my opinion I don't think it is totally due to the fact the one of the spouses is a whuffo. I quit jumping for my first wife (whuffo) for 23 years. We divorced in 1997. I married another whuffo ( or I thought she was ) in 1999. I told her before we got engaged that I wouldn't quit again. We have been married almost four years and she has been going to the DZ every time I go and has run manifest at two different DZs. Everyone treats her like a skydiver even tho she hasn't made a jump. She likes being at the DZ every bit as much as I do. So I feel it's all in who you pick. Are they understanding of your passion for skydiving from the very start? If not then it probably won't work. If they are then you could wind up with a 50/50 marriage or one like mine. My wife keeps saying she would like to do a tandem but she's just not ready yet. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jumperpaula 0 #107 July 26, 2002 Quote I like to think i know how to party, but I would never post naked pics of myself or get into "compromising" positions. Hey, I resemble that remark. Yeah maybe I get a little wild when I turn on the skydiver Paula , but my real life is so........sane. I just can't help releasing the insane Paula every now and then. She needs to and She wants to "be free"-"fly - Maybe that's why I skydive to let loose the insane Paula . What would my theropist say? xoxoxo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites