skybytch 273 #1 April 28, 2002 I stop at a particular store pretty much every morning. Most days I see the same people... including this one guy. He looks about 40ish, not bad looking, dark hair with a little bit of grey, is always nice to the girls behind the counter (I notice things like that!), no wedding ring.He was in front of me in line this morning; there was only one person behind the counter so there were about 6 people waiting. He commented on my tshirt and closing pin necklace - y'know, the typical "so do you skydive?" We chatted about that until it was his turn. He paid for his stuff and went outside. I paid for mine and headed out to my car... he was waiting for me. We talked for about 15 minutes more then I had to leave cuz I was on my way to help my dad move. He didn't ask for my phone number but did ask if I'd be stopping in there again on Monday morning...I'm kinda interested in him even though he's a whuffo... but it's been YEARS since I've done this... help me! How do I let him know I'm interested without coming off as desperate or pushy???pull & flare,lisa[subliminal msg]My website Go Now[/subliminal msg] Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhreeZone 20 #2 April 28, 2002 Lisa... go for it... just ask him if he's like to swing by and see how you sped your weekends some time and you know if you can get him to agree to that slip him your phone number and say "Here is my number in case you can't make it or something" If once you start down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny, consume you it will.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #3 April 28, 2002 DO IT!Definately, go after it, you'll enjoy yourself. No, get your minds out of the gutter, I'm talking strictly from an emotional point of view, here. A human cannonball, I rise above it allUp higher then a trapeze, I can fly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
n2skdvn 0 #4 April 28, 2002 good for you lisa !!! hope it turns out well. but are we gonna be able to zip tie you to your chair on wensday or does he have to do it?????if ya can't dodge it RAM IT !!!!!!click me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viking 0 #5 April 28, 2002 Well isn't your life getting better by the day! Go for it lisa "YOU CAN DOooo IIIT!!!!" hehe I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybytch 273 #6 April 28, 2002 Quotebut are we gonna be able to zip tie you to your chair on wensday or does he have to do it?????ROFL!!! I kinda don't think I'm gonna mention what I do on Wednesday nights just yet.... so no worries there (for awhile at least )pull & flare,lisa[subliminal msg]My website Go Now[/subliminal msg] Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hooked 0 #7 April 28, 2002 Definitely pursue him. Phreezone's suggestion would be good! Maybe this guy would like to come to the DZ and see how you spend your weekends and maybe even do a tandem! J Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ECVZZ 0 #8 April 28, 2002 Go for it Lisa! I'm no expert either, but Phree's advice sounds right on to me! Offer to buy him a cup of coffee and show him around the DZ. GO GIRL! G. Jones"Why don't they have a light bulb that only shines on things that are worth looking at?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #9 April 28, 2002 Damn, Phree gives good dating advice yet again....He should really become a professional therapist!!"A day without sunshine is....well....it's dark" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KATO33 0 #10 April 28, 2002 QuoteDefinitely pursue him. Phreezone's suggestion would be good! Maybe this guy would like to come to the DZ and see how you spend your weekends and maybe even do a tandem!Stop! She just met the guy. Leave it to a bunch of Skydivers You got em doing a tandem already go on a regular date or go see how he enjoys his weekend eventually he'll wanna go watch or jump. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveMonkey 0 #11 April 28, 2002 Lets face it - most of us here spend all of our time at the DZ - if I met a girl I'd take her to the dz witrh me to hang out Danger could be my middle name. But it's Paul. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Magistr8 0 #12 April 28, 2002 this is good advice Phree.Put it this way, if you got off to such a good start with him the worst thing to do would be to not try and get together. Sparks fly all the time but you never know which one is going to start a flame. Whoever said comming down from a high was bad, never tried this.Peter Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dove 0 #13 April 28, 2002 Lisa - sounds like this guy is pretty attracted to you too. You might not have to do anything but say "yes" when he invites you to dinner on Monday! dove Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheMarshMan1 0 #14 April 28, 2002 Go for it Lisa!!! Quoteif I met a girl I'd take her to the dz witrh me to hang outEh, not me. Not unless she wanted to. I'm not saying that I wouldn't go to the DZ, I just wouldnt drag her with me unless she showed genuine interest in going. "If I could be like that, I would give anything, just to live one day, in those shoes..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveMonkey 0 #15 April 28, 2002 I wouldn't drag her down, but I'd like her to. Danger could be my middle name. But it's Paul. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhreeZone 20 #16 April 28, 2002 The problem in a whuffo is that if you don't explain very early in the dating what is going on.... they will never understand and it will always be a sticking point. I'm not saying Lisa needs or should talk him into a tandem. Just have him swing by and watch the load or two before the sunset, expain BASIC things about jumping then have him stick around to watch you on the sunset and then see if he wants to go get food or something afterwards. (Since you DO have to eat and might as well just eat together ) This way your not making it a date to leave him an easy bail if he decides that route and if he does want more... then you leave the door open for that too....If he has no intrest in going be the DZ at all.... just imagine months of dating him trying to explain your weekend and he has no intrest in it....EwwwIf once you start down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny, consume you it will.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheMarshMan1 0 #17 April 28, 2002 Quotejust imagine months of dating him trying to explain your weekend and he has no intrest in it....EwwwThats why I cut away from my last girlfriend. (Well, that and I moved to FL, lol). She wanted nothing to do with flying whatsoever, not to mention skydiving. Now I've solved that problem by never dating anyone who has no interest in anything I do.....oh wait..........thats why I havent had a girlfriend since! "If I could be like that, I would give anything, just to live one day, in those shoes..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhreeZone 20 #18 April 28, 2002 QuoteNow I've solved that problem by never dating anyone who has no interest in anything I doAnother thing that you can do is try to find an activity that the other person is interested in an try to understand it. I tried that once.... It did'nt work so well, but then again... I did'nt try to hard either since I was out jumping insted And Marsh... to solve your problem, hang out at the local flight schools If once you start down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny, consume you it will.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dumpster 0 #19 April 28, 2002 Good advice that! Sakydiving dominates our lives alot- It does mine more than I thought it would when I started, so much that I have to be careful with the way I plan my weekends so I can preserve my marriage- Same applies to dating- He has to understand right from the start that jumping takes alot of your spare time-on weekends (if not all of it-) But go for it girl! Y'never know!!Skydiving and maintenance of relationships could a whole new thread-!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dove 0 #20 April 28, 2002 I remember a thread about skydiving and relationships last summer. I posted how lucky I was that my husband was so supportive of my skydiving. The divorce should be final late May/early June.dove Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Michele 1 #21 April 28, 2002 Quote Sakydiving dominates our lives alot- It does mine more than I thought it would when I started, so much that I have to be careful with the way I plan my weekends so I can preserve my marriage-Sakydiving?What is that? Sounds like something your marriage should have plenty of, in my humble opinion....Ciels and Pinks-MicheleIf you really want to, you can seize the day; if you really want to, you can fly away...~enya~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveMonkey 0 #22 April 28, 2002 Quote Sounds like something your marriage should have plenty of Thought that was muff diving ? Danger could be my middle name. But it's Paul. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AndyMan 7 #23 April 28, 2002 I'm with you dove, I'm never dating a whuffo again. Not even if they seem interested... Maybe if they promise to do a tandem, but even if they did that and didn't come back I'd be disapointed.I hate the shit that goes on between couples over skydiving. I'm never doing that again...Lisa: you know I love you, but hey - go find yourself a skyStud... there's so many out there, just take the initiative!Just do it after Eloy. _AmICQ: 5578907MSN Messenger: andrewdmetcalfe at hotmail dot com AIM: andrewdmetcalfeYahoo IM: ametcalf_1999 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wildblue 7 #24 April 28, 2002 QuoteThe divorce should be final late May/early JuneSo how you doin'? ... I forget how the rest of it goes, but you're mother's a whore!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ECVZZ 0 #25 April 28, 2002 QuoteI hate the shit that goes on between couples over skydiving. I'm never doing that again... Andy, am I to understand that you'll never have another relationship... or that you're going to give up skydiving? No relationship is perfect, and any conflict you may have with a mate over skydiving is more likely going to be the result of insecurities or lack of trust than whether or not she is a whuffo.Skydiving couples have problems that skydiver/whuffo couples don't. For instance, in a divorce. Who gets custody of the home DZ and who gets visitation. Can an ex-spouse get a restraining order against the other so they can have unfettered access to the dz on their court appointed weekends? My point is, all relationships have their problems. In the larger scheme of things skydiving has little to do with problems in a strong, healthy relationship...whuffo or not! Eat your heart out Dr. Laura G. Jones"Why don't they have a light bulb that only shines on things that are worth looking at?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
