freaksister 0 #26 March 22, 2002 Cohabiting.Never been married and don't want to. _______________________________________________This is my current philosophy on relationships (I am young - 26 in 22 days) so this is subject to change:I believe in people being *partners* - you don't have to be madly passionately drooling on yourself in love with someone - in fact that causes irrational decision making - and you don't have to keep people on a string - just care for them and be supportive of them - be their FRIEND first and foremost - throw in a little kinky sex - and a packjob now and then - and you're good to go. Don't hold someone's past against them - we all do things we regret - and if you go snooping in his or her personal effects and find something you don't like - keep your mouth shut. It was probably five years ago and you shouldn't be so nosy. (hehe trust me) Don't expect perfection. Don't take them for granted. They are there by CHOICE - they don't have to put up with your shit. When they are patient with you and don't yell at you for getting slobbering drunk and mooning the dzo, get them a beer and rub their back the next day! Pay for their pack job or something. Don't get mad when they flirt with all the members of the opposite sex at the dz. Offer to join in a threesome. OR flirt with someone and make sure they see it. LOLWhen having sexual relations of whatever sort you are into, don't always make him or her do all the work. Girls...shock your man by waking him up with a BJ and don't ask him to give you any. Finish the job. Last but not least (based on recent experiences) do not tell people about your sex life in the Happy Hour...then go to the bathroom only to find out they came and read what you were typing. This is bad. Keep personal information private. SisCan you Trip like I do? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiver51 0 #27 March 22, 2002 Married and couldn't be happier. Wife doesn't skydive but enjoys going to the DZ as much as I do. Doesn't expecting the unexpected make the unexpected the expected ?? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybytch 273 #28 March 22, 2002 QuoteI guess I didn't realize you'd been with him that long.....Yup. We got together when I was 20; lots of ups and downs in that 16 years but overall it was pretty damn good. I'm just glad we never got married, made the cutaway much cleaner.QuoteYou really are on the prowl now....Quite! Watch out guys!!! pull and flare,lisa Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ChromeBoy 0 #29 March 22, 2002 QuoteYou really are on the prowl now....Her grocery store is wondering why poeple are starting to buy so many cucumbers. They are bringing them in by the truckloads. Lisa, my x-girlfriend used to swear by the plastic toy until I met her. It would probably be more of a down payment up front but the plastic will last longer. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
favaks 0 #30 March 22, 2002 Single and happy. Wanna be with the right one, but if I can't find one I'll be single forever favaks Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GroundZero 0 #31 March 22, 2002 cohabitating... geez... i thought it was spelled copulating*with my beautiful wife!*at the dz, one of my tandem instructors always had an easier way to ask if the pretty little girl tandem student was available, he would simply ask, "Are you married or Happy?" said Fast Eddie.Chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ChromeBoy 0 #32 March 22, 2002 Fast Eddie...takes the same girl on a naked tandem jump each year and turns her backside into the sun so the camera can get a better shot. He also did a 31,000 foot jump with no oxygen. Crazy guy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bbarnhouse 0 #33 March 22, 2002 As much as I enjoy tandems.....nah I'll pass on that ride! LOLmore like Bumms away?It only takes a little pixie dust...... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GroundZero 0 #34 March 22, 2002 but he only remembers the second half of that 31,000'tandem... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kmcguffee 0 #35 March 23, 2002 31, married for 10 years, two kids, and love it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lazerq3 0 #36 March 23, 2002 Married going on 5yrs now with one little girl and a boy on the way!!!! And for me I love being able to say I have a house, a wife, kids, picket fence(although part is chainlinked)..and a dog,.....(god I'ma fucking dork)........For some people it may not be the right lifestly but for me I enjoy it....I mean yeah I just cant pick up everything and go do what I want when I want, but if I could and was single then I wouldnt have all the things I have and enjoy now!!!! ITS ALL ABOUT COMPRIMISE!!! (altoughI wish my wife would try a skydive...she said maybe so its a start!!!)jason Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LittleJumper 0 #37 March 23, 2002 Divorced since 97. LOVED every minute of my single life!. Boy toys are nice, there is that sense of "not attached, but attached" kinda thing going on...but a REAL relationship is a good thing!What you "think" you cannot do ...you CAN if you "think" about it Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freaksister 0 #38 March 23, 2002 see what I mean...compromise=partners!marriage is the ultimate partnership. i am just afraid of going that far. lolby the way, wanted to add one more thing (then i promise i will shut up and get off dz.com - its dinnertime!! hehe)I think the married folks here will agree: It is never 50/50. This is particularly difficult for people to learn when they haven't lived with someone before. Sure you can say you're gonna split the rent and bills, etc. but honestly it rarely works out that way. Also, emotionally one person is usually going to be giving more than the other. This *should* go back and forth over time, I am not suggesting that if one person is consistently selfish and horrible in all sorts of ways you should stay with them. I just think in a healthy relationship its give and take, but don't expect it to be perfectly proportioned. Build up your reserves/ SisCan you Trip like I do? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkyDolphin 0 #39 March 23, 2002 Married 11 years. My husband and I renewed our vows last January in the Bombshelter at Perris. Don't ask, it was crazy. We both skydive and we have a daughter that can't wait to skydive. We pretty much let each other do what we want when we want. If I want to take off for a few days and go to another DZ and he can't get off work, I go without him. Vice Versa of course. If he wants to go and hang out at a rave/party all night with some friends and I don't want to go, then I'm not going to tell him he can't go. Marriage is a compromise for sure but it's a partnership not an ownership. At least that's the way it should be. And thank God neither one of us is the jealous type. I have way too much fun flirting with all the good looking skydivers I meet.Rhonda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lazerq3 0 #40 March 23, 2002 SIS.....You are 100% RIGHT.........Marriage is not 50/50.....When it comes to the bills though I dont care who pays what as long as they get paid.......ITs OUR money, not your money and my money. I mean yes we each set aside some fun money for ourselves for things we wnat but when it comes to the checking and savings its OURS together. And yes my wife is there more emotionally for me than I am for her but weve been together for over 8 yrs (5 married) so she nows me and knows I dont do the emotion thing that well and understands that and we both know whats what!! But in the end I'll say it again COMPRIMISE!!! SHort stroy,,,when we first got married it was My money and HER money...well my money paid EVERYTHING and god knows what hers did !! But she was having fun,,,,,,well it took 6 days from my car being repossesed to realize hey we need to put everything together !!!! And now things are great!!jason Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkyDolphin 0 #41 March 23, 2002 Gee, I didn't mean to make it look like I was directing that compromise comment at anyone specific. It was just my opinion on marriage in general. What works for one may not work for another. If that were the case, no one would ever get divorced. As for money, what works for us is we each have a seperate checking account for "my/his" money and a joint account that we both put equal portions of our paychecks into to pay the bills, groceries, etc. That's always worked best for us. He makes twice as much money as I do but we still consider the joint account equal.Sorry, if I pissed you off Laz. That was not my intention.Rhonda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #42 March 23, 2002 separated after 16 years.AndreaThe brave may not live forever, but the timid may not live at all. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ChromeBoy 0 #43 March 23, 2002 Warning: And she doesn't like flowers or roses on the first date. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lazerq3 0 #44 March 23, 2002 SKyDolphin.... I'm sorry...theres some mis communitcation going on...I wasnt refering to your psot about your marraige and how it works...I was just agreeing with SIS.....Sorry... Hey what ever works for you is great and what ever works for me is great......I was jsut saying that when it all comes down to it its about comprimisng...however you have to do it is up every couple but its stilla comprimise.........now I feel bad....dont want you thingking I was dawging on you!! jason Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sinkster 0 #45 March 23, 2002 22 and single. In no hurry to find someone else either though I want to eventually. I'm still trying to figure out who I am (and having fun doing it "i.e. let's jump out of a plane!") much less deal with someone else! :-)BTW, I just got The Skydiving Handbook and it says that while 60% of the general population is married only 39% of skydivers are. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #46 March 23, 2002 Quote Warning: And she doesn't like flowers or roses on the first date.LMAO. Way to pay attention, Chromie! Now, if someone brought me good chocolate on a first date, he'd be a shoe-in.AndreaThe brave may not live forever, but the timid may not live at all. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bbarnhouse 0 #47 March 23, 2002 Yep and around 15% are female so.........girls we have a lot to choose from!It only takes a little pixie dust...... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jceman 1 #48 March 23, 2002 QuoteStarted skydiving after 14 years of marriage ... next anniversairy will be #18 -- gettin' better all the time!We started skydiving after 27 -- will celebrate 34 years at the convention. The end is nowhere in sight. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
n2skdvn 0 #49 March 23, 2002 hey icy heard your name called out over the manifest at wffc2001if ya can't dodge it RAM IT !!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Designer 0 #50 March 23, 2002 Dating an older freak of a girlfriend.Yes,I just put her to sleep with sex! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
