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What really runs the Church these days is called Canon Law. The Church does not follow everything the bible says - it pays people to interpret it to come up with the governing laws



Then if that church does not follow the teaching of Christ, then they are not Christian no matter how loud they yell they are.



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The Church's interpretation of the bible has changed multiple times in history.



Just because it changed to become popular, does not make it true to the word....In fact they are moving farther away from the word.

The Bible is quite clear that homosexuality is a sin. Therfore no amount of anything will allow a practicing homosexual to be a "Christian". Its just not possible.


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What you need to realize is that the bible is not static and every few years a new version comes out (there was even a politically correct version).



There was also a "Getto Version" that was quite funny. But any version that changes the word is wrong. If I write a Bible that says on the Sabith you should "Fly from the sky under bright covers and rejoce in the freedom of the lord"...While several here would LOVE it...Its not true, it is not the word of God.

Simple really, you can't live against the Bible (and you or Bill have yet to provide ONE verse that says homosexuality is OK) and claim to believe and claim to follow the Bible.

What does thes have to do with marriage?

1. Marriage is religious.

2. You claim that people are free to love who they want...OK. But that would mean I should be free to not recognize a union if I don't choose to...However the law has said that I pretty much have to recognize a marriage even if I don't agree with it. So by forcing me to accept a union that is not one my background agrees with...You are forcing onto me YOUR beliefs.

So who is right? You will claim that I have to get over it. I claim that its not recognized so you need to get over it.

Both have the right to think they way they choose...And as long as gays want the right, they will have to be recognized by the Government...And right now that is not happening in the US.

Someday it will.

But while you only respect one side of the coin, I very much doubt you have even looked at the other side.

I have said I support civil unions...you have not even looked at the other side.
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Because the government has a role in setting up certain legal protections (like the ability to inherit, or child custody.) If they did that - allowed the same legal protections to any two people regardless of race or sex - as far as I'm concerned they're done.



OK, but if MJ wants to marry "bubbles the chimp" if it makes him happy then he should be allowed right? I mean, it does not effect you in the slightest right?

Where is the line drawn?

I'm all for people doing as they please as long as they don't step on someone elses rights. You want to force people to do things the way you want.
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>OK, but if MJ wants to marry "bubbles the chimp" if it makes him
> happy then he should be allowed right? I mean, it does not effect
> you in the slightest right?

Absolutely. And if he wants to start a church where you can marry a rock, and get a nice rock-wife certificate, then he should be able to do that too. It would have no legal standing whatsoever, of course.

>I'm all for people doing as they please as long as they don't step
>on someone elses rights. You want to force people to do things
>the way you want.

?? I don't want to force anyone to do anything. If two people want to get married, they should be able to. And if they are both consenting adults, and they request that the state recognize their union, the state should do so regardless of their color, religion or sex. They should not need your approval.

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There was also a "Getto Version" that was quite funny. But any version that changes the word is wrong.



What is the original source of the bible? Which is the 100% accurate version? How can they prove that one version is more correct over the other. Who can prove what the word of god is? Who can prove what the word of god isn't? You want to base your value and belief systems on people that heard voices in their head and figured they needed to evangelize the world with what they heard????

If someone writes their own version of the bible and claims that God spoke to them to make the changes how are they different from any other prophet that penned a chapter of the bible? If the Pope invoked Papal Infallibility he could make ANY change to the church he wanted to and according to church law they would have to follow (yes, even changes to the bible).

Do you realize how many years went by after the death of Jesus and the creation of the first Gospel - IIRC John was the first Gospel to be created and it was over 150 years later. How much do you think changed in the grapevine method of storytelling before someone thought they should write it down?

You are basing your argument on time - the length that some dusty old book has been around?

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If I write a Bible that says on the Sabbath you should "Fly from the sky under bright covers and rejoice in the freedom of the lord"...While several here would LOVE it...Its not true, it is not the word of God.

Why couldn't it be the word of god? What makes your declaration and written word any different from what is in the bible? Time? Is that it? A couple thousand years of blindly following what someone wrote down makes it gospel???

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Simple really, you can't live against the Bible (and you or Bill have yet to provide ONE verse that says homosexuality is OK) and claim to believe and claim to follow the Bible.

I don't need to provide any such passage. Why? That book and what it says has no impact in my life, drives no decisions, and holds no sway on my faith. To me it is just another book and quoting it and living my life by it seems just as silly as quoting Star Wars and basing my entire life off what George Lucas said.


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1. Marriage is religious.

I have two friends that were married outside of any religion at city hall. Are they not married? The documents they get from our government claim that they are. One of them are in the process of getting a divorce - those papers also claim they are married.

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However the law has said that I pretty much have to recognize a marriage even if I don't agree with it. So by forcing me to accept a union that is not one my background agrees with...You are forcing onto me YOUR beliefs.

This same argument was used during the civil right era - "just because the gov't said all citizens were equal doesn't mean I have to let their forced beliefs change how I do things." These people still burn crosses and churches to this day. Granting equal and free access to rights to a minority may be forcing you to deal with an issue you would rather ignore, but that doesn't make it wrong to give them those rights.

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So who is right? You will claim that I have to get over it. I claim that its not recognized so you need to get over it.

The issue isn't a matter of who is right and who is wrong. It is a matter of equality for American citizens. Personally, I want all of us to have the same rights. Just because these rights would be granted doesn't mean you can't still hold true to your beliefs.

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Both have the right to think they way they choose...And as long as gays want the right, they will have to be recognized by the Government...And right now that is not happening in the US.

Someday it will.

Exactly - freedom to think how you want. No one is stopping that or stopping you from expressing what you feel. But I do know that it is only a matter of time before gay marriage is allowed in this country.

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But while you only respect one side of the coin, I very much doubt you have even looked at the other side.

What other side? That some don't want it? That it makes people feel uncomfortable? That those that don't understand it will hide their prejudice behind religion? I have seen that first hand. I don't care to stop them from feeling this way. I just want the equality.
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oh you closed minded person, ( in jest) people lot their pets more than their own wife or husband (SO for u confused types) how could you cause them so much unhappiness. what a shame. Maybe PITA should be called

It is a slippery slope you are on. It IS NOT MARRIAGE.

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Absolutely. And if he wants to start a church where you can marry a rock, and get a nice rock-wife certificate, then he should be able to do that too. It would have no legal standing whatsoever, of course.



What if he wants it to be legal? And there is a vote on it...Which way would you vote?

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?? I don't want to force anyone to do anything. If two people want to get married, they should be able to. And if they are both consenting adults, and they request that the state recognize their union, the state should do so regardless of their color, religion or sex. They should not need your approval



By allowing them to be married you are in fact forcing those who do not recognize that union to recognize it...you ARE wanting to force your views on others. Not that that is bad, but at least be honest about it.
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What is the original source of the bible?



OT dead sea scrolls.
NT writtings from those who were there.

Of course I think they are both BS. But I don't claim to live my life by them either.

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Which is the 100% accurate version?



Don't know, but then I don't claim to live my life by the values in those books.

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Who can prove what the word of god is? Who can prove what the word of god isn't? You want to base your value and belief systems on people that heard voices in their head and figured they needed to evangelize the world with what they heard????



Agin I don't claim to live my life by those standards.

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If someone writes their own version of the bible and claims that God spoke to them to make the changes how are they different from any other prophet that penned a chapter of the bible? If the Pope invoked Papal Infallibility he could make ANY change to the church he wanted to and according to church law they would have to follow (yes, even changes to the bible).



He could not make a change to the Bible, he could just like King James did have a version written that said what he wanted int he language he wanted....But that does not change the Bible.

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Do you realize how many years went by after the death of Jesus and the creation of the first Gospel - IIRC John was the first Gospel to be created and it was over 150 years later. How much do you think changed in the grapevine method of storytelling before someone thought they should write it down?

You are basing your argument on time - the length that some dusty old book has been around?



Who do you think has a better recollection of events a guy 150 years later, or someone 2,000 years later?

Also you are claiming that its OK to modify the bible not based on fact, but public opinion.

Thats a crappy way to run a religion.

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Why couldn't it be the word of god? What makes your declaration and written word any different from what is in the bible? Time? Is that it? A couple thousand years of blindly following what someone wrote down makes it gospel???



Agin, I claim the bible is a self help book used to control the masses....However I don't claim to live my life according to it, but at the same time do the opposite of what it says...Thats hipocrisy.

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I don't need to provide any such passage. Why?



Also, because you can't and you know it.

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Just because these rights would be granted doesn't mean you can't still hold true to your beliefs.



Sure it does. You just feel its ok to step on some peoples rights as long as you agree.

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But while you only respect one side of the coin, I very much doubt you have even looked at the other side.

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What other side? That some don't want it? That it makes people feel uncomfortable? That those that don't understand it will hide their prejudice behind religion? I have seen that first hand. I don't care to stop them from feeling this way. I just want the equality.



See thats just proof you have not bothered to look at any other side. Instead you just call the other side names.
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Marriage is LOVE between two PEOPLE regardless of their sex or race. Period.



Why not three people?

If you are going to create or change the definition, why not have it possible to marry several people as long as it makes them happy?

And there IS a religious precident.
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What is the original source of the bible?



OT dead sea scrolls.
NT writtings from those who were there.

The people that wrote the OT and NT were not there when it happened. Even just 150 years is a lot of time. Back then the average life span was not much more than 40....how many people did it pass thru before someone wrote it down. We can't even get correct incident reports from the DZ - everyone has their own version of the events and then those who were not there pass it on as fact when they are wrong. Then you get those that decide to write it down on the forums or in the paper and the majority of people tend to believe what is said there. That happens all in a matter of HOURS. Imagine what would happen in 150 years....or thousand of years as was the case with the OT.

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He could not make a change to the Bible, he could just like King James did have a version written that said what he wanted int he language he wanted....But that does not change the Bible.

And now that version is considered by many to be the only telling of the book. Thus, it changed the bible and the way people follow the religion.



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Also you are claiming that its OK to modify the bible not based on fact, but public opinion.

No, I am not saying that. I am saying it happens, it has happened, and it will happen again.

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Just because these rights would be granted doesn't mean you can't still hold true to your beliefs.



Sure it does. You just feel its ok to step on some peoples rights as long as you agree.

What right am I stepping on? Expression/speech? No. Freedom of religion? No. Anything else? No. I'm all for them holding their beliefs, however I will not stand by and watch my friends be denied the same rights that I have.
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Marriage is LOVE between two PEOPLE regardless of their sex or race. Period.



Why not three people?

If you are going to create or change the definition, why not have it possible to marry several people as long as it makes them happy?

And there IS a religious precident.



I see your point.

I do agree there are SOME "regulations" (for lack of a better word) that need to be adhered to regarding marriage. ie. relatives can't marry, must be between 2 people, must be X age, blah blah blah.

My arguement is PEOPLE are PEOPLE and we should all deserve and GET the same treatment, rights, benefits, and respect.

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And now that version is considered by many to be the only telling of the book. Thus, it changed the bible and the way people follow the religion.



It did not change the Bible. It might have changed the religion, but that is one reason why I think religion is BS.

Those who think that the King James is THE Bible are fools.

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No, I am not saying that. I am saying it happens, it has happened, and it will happen again.



It does not make it right, in fact it just puts the religion even farther from the source and the word.

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What right am I stepping on?



The persons right to not recognize a marriage that is against their religion. But you are ok with goose stepping all over some rights.
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And there is a precedent of our government recognizing civil unions as marriage.



Yep and they have said it is between a MAN AND A WOMAN.


You lose
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And there is a precedent of our government recognizing civil unions as marriage.



Yep and they have said it is between a MAN AND A WOMAN.



WHY!?!?!? Because a book supposedly says so!? If the Bible can be translated so many times, and can be made to fit into whatever beliefs this religion has, or whtever that religion wants it to say, then how do we even know what it really says? WE DON'T.

God wants us to be HAPPY!! Why is THAT so damn difficult to understand?? I am not religious. I consider myself agnostic. I have my own beliefs and thoughts. But the overall thing is GOD WANTS US TO BE HAPPY.

I do not believe in Hell. We live in Hell here on Earth. I can't imagine what it must be like to love someone else with allo f your heart and want to be with them and spend your life loving them, and not be recognized for it, while the couple who live next door and want the same exact thing for themselves are recognized, celebrated, and encouraged for it. Oh wait, yes, I can imagine it. That must be HELL.

**Ron, that was not a direct reply to YOU**

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I see your point.



Only partly

It is evidenced right here:

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I do agree there are SOME "regulations" (for lack of a better word) that need to be adhered to regarding marriage. ie. relatives can't marry, must be between 2 people, must be X age, blah blah blah.

My arguement is PEOPLE are PEOPLE and we should all deserve and GET the same treatment, rights, benefits, and respect.



Why a person marry their sibling? Or Mother? I can find religious quotes why, but ignoring that, why can't Oedipus marry his Mom? They are both people.

Why can't 13 year olds marry? They used to all the time.

If two people ( and I still say why not more?) want to marry and they both want to, why should it matter if they are siblings, parents, or young?

See, if you want to change the definintion to fit your goals, someone will want to change it to fit THEIRS...And what right would you have to deny them happiness and their definition?

So if you want to allow men to marry men, and claim its for their rights...then you have to allow siblings to marry and children to marry their parents, and anyone to mary anyone reguardles of age, and my favorite many people to marry many other people.

Otherwise you are denying others the rights you claim to be fighting for.
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>What if he wants it to be legal? And there is a vote on it...Which way
>would you vote?

If he wants to marry a rock? That's like asking how you would vote if he wanted to make it legal to wear a silly hat. You don't need a law to allow something, you only need a law to prohibit something.

But if the vote was on "should a rock be accorded all the rights of someone who is normally married to someone else" I would vote no, if that's your question. I know, though, that you are not trying to say that a gay marriage is like marrying a rock.

>By allowing them to be married you are in fact forcing those who do
> not recognize that union to recognize it...you ARE wanting to force
> your views on others. Not that that is bad, but at least be honest
> about it.

No one is 'allowed' to get married. People marry each other; no one married them. The government's only role should be to recognize the legal union of two people. I am against refusing to recognize people's unions based on religion, sex or color.

So in that respect, yes. I am trying to force the government not to discriminate on the basis of sex. I am not trying to force anyone else to accept anything. YOU don't have to accept gay marriages, or interracial marriages, or a 'marriage' between a rock and a person. You can consider some or all of those completely invalid if you like. Fine with me.

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WHY!?!?!? Because a book supposedly says so!? If the Bible can be translated so many times, and can be made to fit into whatever beliefs this religion has, or whtever that religion wants it to say, then how do we even know what it really says? WE DON'T.



Fair enough ignore the bible, but don't claim to pay attention to it but ignore the parts you don't like. (not directed at you)

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God wants us to be HAPPY!! Why is THAT so damn difficult to understand??



Do you have proof of that? If you got it from the bible, then why pay attention to that part and ignore the part about killing homosexuals?

Simple fact is if you REALLY believe in equal rights and allowing same sex folsk to marry. then you must ALSO support brothers and sisters to get married, Children must be allowed to marry their parents, People must be allowed to have as many spouses as they want, Adults must be allowed to marry children....Hell, people should be allowed to marry gold fish...

For if your only reason is to make people happy, Michael Jackson will only be happy if allowed to marry Bubbles the chimp...what right do you have to prevent him from being happy?

See the slippery slope? You say "well not kids, or animals. And people need to be a certain age, and marrying a relative is just wrong".

But what makes YOUR definition the right one and not theirs?
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If he wants to marry a rock?



No if he wanted to be legally wed to bubbles the chimp.

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You don't need a law to allow something, you only need a law to prohibit something



Right now same sex marriages are illegal. You want to change that...Therfore you want to make them legal. Same thing, don't try and play word games.

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I would vote no, if that's your question. I know, though, that you are not trying to say that a gay marriage is like marrying a rock



No, I would say "What right do you have to not allow someone to be happy, what harm would it do you to allow people to marry animals?"

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No one is 'allowed' to get married



Again word games...Then by that token no one is NOT allowed to be married and there is not reason to debate anything.

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The government's only role should be to recognize the legal union of two people.



And they do...As long as it fits the LEGAL definition.

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I am against refusing to recognize people's unions based on religion, sex or color.



How about multiple wives, or marrying a sibling? Why should THAT be illegal, but not this?

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So in that respect, yes. I am trying to force the government not to discriminate on the basis of sex. I am not trying to force anyone else to accept anything. YOU don't have to accept gay marriages, or interracial marriages, or a 'marriage' between a rock and a person. You can consider some or all of those completely invalid if you like. Fine with me.



If you force the Government to allow it, then you force all of us to accept it.
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[replyBut what makes YOUR definition the right one and not theirs?



I never said it was right... or wrong. My very first sentance in the very first post says, "I'm sure I will be flamed for my thoughts, but so what." Ah-hem... MY THOUGHTS.

I agree it is a very slippery slope. You can't give one group one set of rules and another group another set. That was my original argument. But, seeing what you, and others, have said about MJ marrying Bubbles or a man marrying his mother, or whatever, makes me wonder how that would ever work. [:/]

But, for the record, if it ever comes up in a vote, I will be voting yes, it should be allowed. If one of my gay friends asked for my support, they already have it.

This thread has been highly entertaining and informative. I've learned things and have been able to see how people react to a question. Thanks everyone for that - even those that feel totally opposite of how I do. :)

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Why should I have to legally support gay marriages? Why does the minority have to push their views of right and wrong on me? They can do what they want with there lives. I don't care how someone else is living as long as it doesn't impose on me. I also don't have to support something that I think is just wrong.



Ugh, you don't have to lift a finger and it won't effect you at all if fags get married. Tell me, your income is going to diminish or disappear over it? Unless you happen to live in San Francisco or Provincetown MA, the only likely thing to happen to you is that you'll maybe experience some delay in getting a wedding planner and a florist for YOUR wedding. :P

Now, what about drug users? There a lot of people who are on Medicaid who are drug abusers and we're footing their bills. Their bad lifestyle DOES have an effect on us--we're helping pay for it!

Or seniors getting Viagra/Levitra/Cialis on Medicaid? Do we need to be paying for old horny men to get a boner? I could use some of that Medicare money to help pay my bills, thank you.

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>No, I would say "What right do you have to not allow someone to be
>happy, what harm would it do you to allow people to marry animals?"

There is no harm in marrying an animal. It's absurd, but if someone wants to claim that, so what? There IS a lot of harm to our legal system in recognizing an animal as a person. So I would vote against any law that gives animals the same rights as people.

>And they do...As long as it fits the LEGAL definition.

And as long as they do not discriminate based on sex, religion or color, then I'm fine with that. They do currently discriminate. So the law should be changed.

>How about multiple wives, or marrying a sibling? Why should THAT
>be illegal, but not this?

Siblings - I have no problems with that, and it is legal in many places.

Multiple wives/husbands - I have no problem with a Mormon having X wives. Again, the only role the government should have is setting up a legal relationship between two people. They can be any two people, including two people in a polygamous relationship.

>If you force the Government to allow it, then you force all of us to
>accept it.

The law allows you to eat your own poo; does that mean you are forced to accept it? I think you are confusing what is legal and what you must accept.

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In every one of those religions being gay is known as a sin. It would disrespect those religions if it were forced by law for them to get married in for example a church.

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Well here I go. I know many of you are not into religion and I am not trying to shove anythin down anyone's throat. This is just in the way of explanation. No, most churches, especially the Catholic Church do not think being gay is a sin. The sin part comes in when it is acted out in a sexual way. The same as we believe it is a sin to have premarital sex between a man and a woman. We (Catholics) believe that sex within a marriage is a Holy act intended for procreation. That is the whole thinking behind not allowing artificial birth control. If the possibility of procreation is not there then the sex act is not complete. Also procreation is not possible between two people of the same gender. Thus the stand that we don't agree that marriage between gays is ok. We are called to reach out to gays (not for their throat) just as we are called to reach out to others that have a potential impediment to their salvation.

As for Christians trying to push their beliefs on others, I am afraid there are some that do. But those are the only stories you hear of. Mainly because you are not aware of the many that are all around you that simply have a kind word or a kind act but let that speak for them. A great saint (name escapes me) once said - "Go out and evangelize and sometimes use words."

Just imagine that you deeply believe that we have an eternal aspect to our being and that when we die we will either live in everlasting torment or everlasting bliss. How hard would it be to not impose yourself on your friends or even just aquaintences that behave in a way that makes you wonder if they will have the torment forever? Remember, I am not pushing I am just trying to explain a viewpoint.

Oops I left some extra of the quote in that I was replying to.




Being a recouperating Catholic... it was was somewhat laughable to be told that the rythm method (pulling out early) also fell into this category.

So, what if I change my mind half-way through the act and decide not to finish... or the phone rings? I'm going to spend some extra time in Purgatory for that?

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The Bible is quite clear that homosexuality is a sin. Therfore no amount of anything will allow a practicing homosexual to be a "Christian". Its just not possible.



Not true. Homosexuality is a sin just like any other. Even the Apostle Paul continued to struggle with his own.

“For the good that I wish, I do not do; but I practice the very evil that I do not wish”
Romans 7:19


I dare say he was still a Christian. The question comes with whether trust & repentance are involved.

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