Am I out of line here?

[ExAFO 0]

I've been chatting with a friend of my sister for awhile over myspace and the phone. We've hung out a few times, and there's an attraction there...

She calls me this afternoon, I ask her what she's up to--she blurts out that she's on her way to her dealer to buy two ounces of pot.

Shit--as a first year law student I know that an ounce under IL law if she's caught, it can get her up to 3 years in the pen and $25k in fines, not to mention her car confiscated. She buys in quantity, as both her roommates smoke, so they pool their $. That's possession w/intent to distribute the moment she hands it to them.

She's a terrible driver and has beaucoup tickets...But she drives to her dealer...

I only said "be careful." She gets all defensive like I'm lecturing her or something. I may think pot laws are a bad idea, but until the laws change, they're still the law. (although I have no desire to personally support the legalization effort)

Am I off base in cautioning her to be careful, and not call me on her cell (a ticketable offense in Chicago, IIRC) until she gets home?

I call it concern, she acts as if it was nagging...

Opinions (related to this query, wiseasses ) ??

Illinois needs a CCW Law. NOW.

[quade 4]

I would think it's probably not the first time she's done this.

While on a certain level she may not fully understand the legal ramifications of what she's doing, my "guess" is that she does understand the procedure for doing it.

I would think it would be a bit like a whuffo telling a skydiver to be "careful". It -always- cracks me up when a whuffo does that to me, but I can understand a slightly paranoid and defensive person taking it the wrong way.

quade -
The World's Most Boring Skydiver

[willard 0]

If I were a law student i think I'd be more concerned about what would happen if she got busted while riding in your car. That could really mess up any career in the legal professions. If she is willing to do time for her pleasures, that's her choice. But don't let her mess up your future.
Other than that you have made sure she knows the consequences so anything more you say about it to her will only piss her off. Not out of line to give her info, but would be to continually bring up the subject.

[ExAFO 0]

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If I were a law student i think I'd be more concerned about what would happen if she got busted while riding in your car. That could really mess up any career in the legal professions. If she is willing to do time for her pleasures, that's her choice. But don't let her mess up your future.

We've had that conversation in a no-nonsense way...early on.

Illinois needs a CCW Law. NOW.

[akarunway 1]

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If I were a law student i think I'd be more concerned about what would happen if she got busted while riding in your car. That could really mess up any career in the legal professions. If she is willing to do time for her pleasures, that's her choice. But don't let her mess up your future.

We've had that conversation in a no-nonsense way...early on.

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[lawrocket 3]

Out of line? For providing feedback?

My wife is hotter than your wife.

[vortexring 0]

If you're that concerned, and you're her friend, nag away!

'for it's Tommy this, an' Tommy that, an' "chuck 'im out, the brute!" But it's "saviour of 'is country" when the guns begin to shoot.'

[shropshire 0]

If you know that a crime has been commited it's your duty to call the cops. end of... how are your cats goint to survive when you're in jail?

(.)Y(.)
Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome

[Tonto 1]

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it can get her up to 3 years in the pen

Would she be allowed conjugal visits?

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[dropoutdave 0]

Eh? I was under the impression that you thought people getting busted for pot was funny? I'm confused.

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[ExAFO 0]

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Eh? I was under the impression that you thought people getting busted for pot was funny? I'm confused.

I don't approve of what she's doing, but like others, I am not going to Narc on them either. But if they're dumb enough to get caught, they deserve the punishment the law specifies.

Illinois needs a CCW Law. NOW.

[ErricoMalatesta 0]

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Eh? I was under the impression that you thought people getting busted for pot was funny? I'm confused.

I don't approve of what she's doing, but like others, I am not going to Narc on them either. But if they're dumb enough to get caught, they deserve the punishment the law specifies.

Unjust laws are no laws at all

[bexren76 0]

Speaking as another lawyer (albeit an English one) I would say that even just as a friend I consider it part of my job to let my friends know what I think. I expect them to let me know what they think especially if I am going about with my head up my arse. But I also think that once you have said it you have to not harp on and let them do their thing without commenting. If it goes tits up then it's your job as a friend to be there to pick up the pieces (within reason of course). Anyway if I were you I'd get used to clients taking f*** all notice of your advice even if that results in them being banged up!! You know what they say about good advice being useless.......!

[Opie 0]

"and there's an attraction there..."


So you're attracted to this girl, she's a regular smoker, I assume you're not and not for legalization.

In the long run you might have more problems in any serious relationship with her than "telling her to be careful" Having the same outlook on life and laws helps in the long run.

[NCclimber 0]

No. You're not out of line?

[rehmwa 2]

You're not out of line. But being attracted to a defensive serial doper is a waste of your time.

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Driving is a one dimensional activity - a monkey can do it - being proud of your driving abilities is like being proud of being able to put on pants

[shropshire 0]

So what laws would you report to the police... Are there good laws and bad laws?

(.)Y(.)
Chivalry is not dead; it only sleeps for want of work to do. - Jerome K Jerome

[livendive 8]

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So what laws would you report to the police... Are there good laws and bad laws?

Absolutely. I would not report a friend for smoking pot (or doing any other drug). I would report a friend for getting their 8 year old high.

Edit to add: As for the original post...it seems perfectly reasonable to caution a friend and in no way out of line.

Blues,
Dave

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(drink Mountain Dew)

[Zipp0 1]

Shit dude - as a law student you should know that the law is pretty much a joke, and a good lawyer can be its master. You can do pretty much anything you want, including murder - drugs are nothing. A good lawyer and some money in the right pockets will get you off nearly every time.

She'll likely outgrow the pot thing, like pretty much everyone..... I'd be more worried about her attitude.

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[freethefly 6]

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Shit dude - as a law student you should know that the law is pretty much a joke, and a good lawyer can be its master. You can do pretty much anything you want, including murder - drugs are nothing. A good lawyer and some money in the right pockets will get you off nearly every time.

She'll likely outgrow the pot thing, like pretty much everyone..... I'd be more worried about her attitude.

Willie has proven that a good lawyer is worth every penny.
ExAFO, I take it that you have no plans to become a defense attorney.
Oh, you should also check her arms for needle marks as the government says that a joint leads to heroin and we all know that the government is always right

Willie Nelson pleads out on pot charge
Tuesday, April 24, 2007 – Willie Nelson and his tour manager avoided jail Tuesday after pleading guilty to a misdemeanor count of marijuana possession after an incident last September in Louisiana.
Nelson and his tour manager, David Anderson, plus Nelson's sister, Bobbie Nelson, and two drivers, received citations on Sept. 18, 2006 after state troopers said they found marijuana and hallucinogenic mushrooms on Nelson's tour bus during a commercial-vehicle inspection on Interstate 10. Officers at the scene smelled something suspicious. A search of the bus found 1 1/2 pounds of marijuana and about two-tenths of a pound of psychedelic mushrooms.

Nelson and Anderson were each fined $1,024 and were placed on probation for six months. The citation against Bobbie Nelson, a member of his band, was dismissed.

A conviction could have resulted in a six-month jail term.

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When you're out of the blue and into the black."
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[Skyrad 0]

A) Live with it, its just where she is right now
B) Bin her and find a chick that don't do drugs.

Simple.

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[Shotgun 1]

But in Willie's case, it probably wasn't hard to convince the judge that 1 1/2 pounds was for personal consumption and not intended to distribute.

[crozby 0]

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I only said "be careful." She gets all defensive like I'm lecturing her or something.

So you really like her, but you already

a. Disapprove of her driving.
b. Disapprove of her pot smoking.
c. Disapprove of her phoning whilst driving.

Hmmm. How are you going to feel about her six months down the line when the shagging dries up and all those cute little things she does become majorly irritating?

Either loosen up a bit (hey, pots good for that) or get a new girlfriend ... Girlfriend.

[AndyBoyd 0]

"I've been chatting with a friend of my sister for awhile over myspace and the phone. We've hung out a few times, and there's an attraction there..."

Forget the stuff about pot. Hitting on your sister's friend is not the greatest idea. Trust me...

[turtlespeed 221]

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Forget the stuff about pot. Hitting on your sister's friend is not the greatest idea. Trust me...

Only if she's not hot.

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