trentt

From a few of the responses that I got to a previous thread, I started thinking about a topic that is far more important. To sum it up, the topic is how long should you wait before having sex. I know this has been talked about before, but I think I have a little different angle on it. So I can think of 3 categories that can be interpreted as the 'length' of time you wait: 1. Wait until you are a certain age (16, 18, 21, etc.) 2. Wait some amount of time in any given relationship (1 week, 1 month, 6 months, etc.) 3. Wait for some 'event' (fall in love, move in together, engagement, marriage, etc.) So what category is most important and why? The category that really got me thinking about this was those who believe you should wait for marriage. I used to think this was a good idea, but I have started to notice that people may rush into marriage just for 'permission' to have sex. Someone may say how strong they were to wait until they got married, but if they got married at 18 they really didn't wait that long (at least not compared to some), and getting married at 18 is chalk full of potential problems in the future. And take my Uncle as an example - he didn't get married until he was almost 40, so is it realistic for someone to wait that long? How many people have waited until marriage AFTER their early twenties? I would actually offer that it is dangerous to wait too long if it is something you are craving. Look at the unusually high percentage of selebate priests who have fallen into very bad sexaul traps - is it possible this is partially caused by depriving your body of something it needs for so many years? On the other hand, having sex too early or with too many partners has some serious dangers as well. So where is that happy median??? JJ (trentt not Trent!)

I think you missed one of the recent related threads that should have inspired another important option in your pole - those who have never had a first time!

>>This discussion belongs in the safety and training forum. That's funny shzit! I'd crosspost if I knew how... (not really)

>>Trolling forum wouldn't be a bad idea. Believe it or not, it was not really trolling although I did register an anonomous user (trentt) because I am actually pretty embarresed about this whole thing. I have a real DropZone profile with my real name and home dropzone. Most people don't know this information about me, and there are so many people that read these forums I really didn't want them to find out such personal information. At least not be reading it here. I am not a fan of anonomous users either, but I made an exception for myself here. I know you are a moderator, so if you want to PM me I will give you my real email address as long as you don't intend to give it to everyone else to expose me. I think the forum profile is currently being updates to take care of the public email glitch. Also for the record, I am not saying I am huge or anything like that - I'm definately not. The item in question is plenty long, just extremely snug trying to put on. Sorry again I made up a name, but I really did get some good responses before the flames!! Thanks all. Not Trent (I'll give you a hint though, it starts with a J)

>>Why not hold off until you get married? I've definately thought about that and it may still work out that way. During my late teen years I think this was a big reason for my abstinance. Now I don't think it is morally wrong to have sex before marriage, although pretty cool for the girl you wait for (as long as she doesn't mind teaching new tricks!). And if I meet a girl that wants to wait, I will be more than happy to comply. My major issue has been that I really havn't dated. For personal reasons I don't think people want to hear about in a public forum, I decided to take care of myself the last few years and not let anyone too close (because people who are close can hurt you the most). I finally realized that realionships are like skydiving - they have inherant risk but the rewards can be tremendous. So now I am starting from scratch with this relationship business and I was intimate (just kissing and touching) with my first girl ever last week. I have seen plenty of girls naked before, and kissed in an after party atmosphere before, but not been intimate. The emotions of the moment made me realize that if I am fooling around and a girl wants to take it to the next level, I do not have the will power to stop it. I have never had emotions truly take over like that before. So... that is what inspired this thread. I though it would be good to be a little prepared and at least own some protection just in case. If I am really lucky I will find my soulmate the first try, but I am not delusional - that probably won't happen. I fully expect to be hurt by someone. But if I have to be hurt, I hope I can at least get laid in the process!

So this is a bit of an ackward question, but here it goes. I am a 24 year old male, and for several reasons I have never dated. Well I have finally realized this is not going to work anymore, and am ready to venture into a sex life. I have had some girls persue me in the recent past (something about being a virgin makes girls really like you!) and I think I'll start showing some interest back. One of the ways I thought I would prepare is to make sure I am proficient at putting a rubber on. But I was wondering how tight those things are supposed to be? It is borderline painful to try and put it on, and I was wondering if that is how they are supposed to fit or if there are different sizes. If there are different sizes, is there some kind of sizing chart on which product I should buy? Sorry ladies - I would have but this in the 'Mens' forum if it existed.