"how do we win the war in Iraq?"
I can´t say how US will win this war, but I sure hope that something good will come out of it.
I think that the military and the US needs to have a different strategy and show the iraqi people (and the rest of the world) that this is not about winning a war, but about helping people to obtain peace and rebuild their country. Unfortunately many of the Iraqis people believe that US can do no good, and therefore many of them is fighting for what they believe in.
I do not like the background for this war, neither the way it has been done. If it contains this way then it will take years to rebuild the country and it will be diffucult to obtain faith from the Iraqis people.